A sensitive subject which WEIGHS us all down

Welcome back to NYTGroom!! My wonderful fiancee pointed out to me tonight that NYT, in addition to standing for Not Your Traditional, could also stand for New York Times. To which I replied, "I know". It was somewhat intentional. I was kind of hoping that someone Googling the New York Times would come across this blog. Yes. I'm sneaky.

Anyway, back to the real reason for my post tonight. This is a very sensitive issue for a lot of people in the world. The issue of weight. Invariably, whenever someone tells you that they're getting married, someone, whether it be that person or the one they're telling, will mention having to lose a few pounds. But, why does it have to be that way?

First off, whether you are a bride or groom, having someone else tell you that you need to lose a few pounds before your wedding is exceptionally insulting. It's kind of rude. Not to mention the fact that it adds MORE anxiety on top of a situation in which there is already a ton to begin with.

Think about it. There's so much that's going to be going on during the wedding day. Hair, makeup, getting dressed, walking down the aisle, making sure you repeat back exactly what's asked of you, that first kiss after you're married in front of all those people, the first dance, the cake smooshing into a face. It's a lot of friggin pressure.

The last thing anyone wants on top of that is: "Should I have lost that last 5 pounds?"

Here's the thing. Why do you have to lose that "last 5 pounds"? What does it really represent? Is it going to make your dress fit better? Are you going to look slimmer in that suit/whatever?

The simple answer is: NO.

Final fittings for wedding dresses are typically a couple weeks before the wedding. You know what's going to happen if you lose more weight between that fitting and the wedding? Your dress will not fit right. It'll be too big.

For guys, it's actually kind of worse. If you're wearing a tux, you get fitted for that anywhere from weeks to months before the big day. Then, magically, your tux shows up at the rental shop a day or two before your wedding. That 5 pounds just brought you from a nicely fitting tux that you're wearing, to a nicely looking tux that is wearing you.

What I'm trying to get at is that it doesn't matter if you lose those 5 pounds or gain them. Who cares? As long as you're happy with who you are, nothing else is important. So, maybe you don't "fit" into that stereotypical vision of what a modern day wedding is.

I know I won't! And I'm perfectly happy with that. You should be too. You, and I'm speaking to whoever may be reading this, are an AWESOME person! Fat, skinny, tall, short, it doesn't matter. You rock and you should NEVER let someone else's vision of "ideal" screw with your own.

Peace
Tony